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Tips on Becoming More Approachable
Mon, 16 May 2011
Be the person you WANT to be...
it all starts with a smile. I know from experience I feel much more at ease approaching smiling people than those with scowls or frowns on their faces (whether they realise it's there or not!) Smiles are free, easy to execute & not only make you seem more happy, confident & approachable, they also make you feel good so there's no excuses to not.
Don't be rude to everyone that approaches you
This comes back to our comment previously of not assuming everyone that comes up to you a) wants one thing (that's what I'd parents would like us to think when you're 18) b) is a douche c) isn't going to be someone you don't hit it off with OR d) all of the above. Obviously to every rule there's an exception, and the exception for this is some people you really don't want to hit it off with so you will always be rude (that's your choice). BUT remember, it takes a lot of courage for people TO approach you these days when you're out so stop writing everyone off because of previous preconceptions (see above preconceptions a - d) - times & people have changed so give others a chance.
Utilise your eye contact better
Whatever happened to some good ole fashion eye s-e-x-i-n-g? I would like to hold on to the belief that this traditional & hot attention grabbing trick is still alive & kicking so it's up to you to prove me right. Remember the days of girl spots guy, guy spots girl, girl holds eye contact justttt long enough for it to be flirtatious. Guy & girl look away like they have just been told a cute secret, girl & guy catch eyes again but hold it longer this time. Well, utilising your eye contact will make you so much more approachable (& even add a bit of sexy to your world). Remembering as well, if you Do spot someone who you'd love to notice you - trying to grab their eye contact to send a cute smile to & then getting one back indicates its definitely mutual and should give you (or them) more confidence to then do the approaching!
This needs to always be a given, in all that you do and all that you are but if this is just a friendly gentle reminder then we're happy for it to be so. People always want to know the real you & that doesn't stop with date prospects. You want to be more approachable but you always want to be true to yourself as well. Simple things like better eye contact, smiling, & not being rude are 3 of the simplist things you can do which we know are going to help you immensely, but remember, if your an introvert, don't try to act like an extrovert thinking it makes you more approachable - it doesn't.
I believe nothing is more attractive than a person who is sure of themself (not cocky, HUGE difference) and enjoying what they're doing so start working on changing your attitude to make it more approachable but never stray from being yourself.
Yours in Peace & Love xx