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Are you the Shag or the Girlfriend??
Tue, 21 Dec 2010
This one's just for the women sorry gentleman ....
Now excuse us for the blunt language but it's a question you need to ask yourself - and ensure you answer honestly.
And for the record, there's nothing wrong with being either, wanting to be one though & acting like the other is where the problem lies.
Picture this, you meet a guy (Mr X) who you really hit it off with - could be on a dating website, in a club, bar, through a friend, any which way! and want to get to know him better. Mr X seems interested - which is great! - so you are in contact with him on the phone or via some form of social media (it is 2010 afterall). The next instance you meet up, one thing leads to another and you find yourself waking up the following morning in his bed. You proceed to call your girlfriend and tell her what a great night of sex you had and think this really could work. Some days creep by and he doesn't call or text. You tell yourself that his just playing the normal guy game and your girlfriends convince you of the same - and that it's fine. Then the weekend arrives. It's a Saturday night and you get a call/text from Mr X asking what you're up to, & do you want to meet up later. You go, and ... well I think you get where that's going.
A few weeks pass by and you start wondering why his not contacting you during the week, why you haven't gone on a proper date yet & question if your now officially seeing each other.
Well ladies, the answers to those questions? You're his shag material, not girlfriend material. Of course, there's the rule & then there's the exception....with anything, but don't convince yourself that you're the exception to this rule, because chances are your probably not.
Maybe you're not looking for dates, for Mr Right or even for Mr Right now...so weekend & late night catch ups is fine & most certainly acceptable. Some tips if I may though. Have fun! Remember you're the one who knows what is best for you & what you want so knowing that that's all you want for now is fine.
Looking at the other side however, if you know what you're looking for right now IS a relationship then my tips if I may again? Remember that ultimately you're the girl that the guy wants to be proud to bring home & introduce to his mum (& family), so sleeping with him the first or second time you catch up with him doesn't look great by his standards. You more quickly become looked at as the root material, rather than the girlfriend material.
Guys like some mystery & a bit of a chase so if what you're looking for is to settle down, act like that. If you're looking for fun & no titles of girlfriend, then by all means, act like that.
So ladies, what we're trying to say, is know your title, then own it, be comfortable with it & remember that you'll get back what you put out...
Think about it.
Yours in Peace & Love xx