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Don't write them off just yet
Thu, 16 Sep 2010
Most may or may not agree with the following but it's worth bringing to your attention.... The title is pretty much self explanatory but what is behind those 6 words - ‘don't write them off just yet' ... well it's simple.
Think of your ideal partner, then forget about it.
It's all well & good to have a list of your ‘perfect' partner (keeping in mind that nobody is perfect) however exactly how many other people are you letting pass by because they don't tick EVERY box. And let's be honest, how long exactly is that list of criteria your expecting your ‘one & only' to match up to??
By anybody's standards .... It's probably unrealistic.
Now, don't get us wrong, we believe in knowing what you want, going after it & not settling for anything less. What we don't believe in is having a list as long as your arm (or even hand) listing every quality or characteristic your dream partner would have, then writing anybody else off who doesn't "fit" that list.
Just imagine how many possible suitors, amazing people & the ‘ones' you're letting slip through your fingers just by not allowing people to be anything less than you've always imagined.
And let us make this clear, this isn't about settling for something less than you wanted. At all. This is about challenging the idea of not setting out for a man or woman who, well who frankly may not even exist. What you'll find happens is you then feel like you've settled, when really you haven't and be resentful if they're not matching up to the dream partner you have created.
Of course you have to be sexually attracted to your significant others so we're not saying go for someone who's not your type either. What we're saying is just gives those an opportunity to prove themselves worthy before writing them off completely just because they don't fit your list.
So ... The challenge?
Simple. Next time someone who your attracted to, but who may not necessarily to be your "type" (too nice, doesn't play football, isn't big boobed) from first impressions. Give them a go! Don't write them off. You don't know that they're not more of a match for you mentally & in all other aspects than the ones you do give a chance because of a pre conditioned list.
Goodluck - and my the fun & guts to do it be with you!
Yours in Peace & Love xx